Here are some strategies brought to you by experienced home schooling parents. Try using some of them to create a fulfilling learning experience, for you and your kid.
1 – It is never too late to change the curriculum
Yes, you can even do it mid-way in the academic year. Sometimes you might pick books for a course from your favorite publishers or you might buy a packaged curriculum only to find your child does not like it. Don’t hesitate to change it and sell it when you realize it is not working. Get feedback from other parents who are home schooling their kids. Explore online and go for curriculum resources with high ratings and good reviews.
2 – Every child demands different educational approach
One of your kids might be more of the kinesthetic type while the other would learn better visually. Figure out the strengths of your child. For instance, a kid learnt names of American states and capital while skating with his father, in a day. The same kid if told to sit down and learn would have taken probably 10 days because it would not have interested him.
3 – Cover most of the syllabus in the morning
It is better to teach in mornings. It is the freshest time and children can pay more attention to what is being taught to them. It allows you to say focused on what you are teaching. Covering most of the work in morning leaves the kid enough time to go play or work on a project and frees you to do household chores.
When your young child is ready to learn, teach him to:
Brush his teeth.
Dress by himself.
Put his toys away.
Make his bed with your help.
This means you must take time from your busy schedule to teach your child what he needs to know. Avoid trying to speed things up by doing his chores for him. If you take over his chores, he won’t achieve a sense of competence. He’ll become weak and you’ll become stressed. He needs to depend on himself for the chores he can do.
One more thing, avoid being picky. When your young child does pretty well, accept his efforts. Don’t complain about every little thing unless you want tantrums and tears. Instead compliment him on what he does well, “Joey, you pulled the covers off the floor. Good for you.” If the pillow is messy, ask him, “What do you think you could do about the pillow?” Let him straighten it. Praise him again with, “Good job, Joey. It looks great!”
Competence in young children is the “I can do it myself” attitude. This is an important quality for building character and self-esteem.
How to Get Your Child to Do Chores:
I used positive chore charts to motivate my boys. I also gave allowances.
Some of you may be against allowances. That’s fine. I viewed allowances as helping my boys learn how to spend money wisely. If they bought candy, it was soon gone. If they saved their money like Heidi did in her money jar, they could spend it on something of value or pay me to do their work…just kidding.
Why not build a sense of competence in your boys and girls with age-appropriate chores? Start when they are pre-school age. If you do, you’ll be building self-esteem and character too.
Always make yourself ready to educate your kids towards maintaining good habits which are good for their health. Never go for taking steps if you have less control over your anger. As, you are in anger you may punish your kid or exhaust your frustration on your kid, resulting misconceptions in your kid mind which will be really ineffective not only for your kid but also for your whole family. Be calm and feel relaxed because kids are in the age of growing, so give them maximum time to develop clear and positive ideas about everything.
Give them Confidence
Confidence is one of the bases of personality development of your kids. They need confidence from their elders at every stage of their life. So giving confidence also works here when you need to guide and teach your kids to avoid bad habits. Probably, it is the easiest way to teach your children.
How can you give them confidence? There are different ways like letting them taking their part in family matters which you think they should be involved in. Keep a very friendly behavior with kids, be frank and make best efforts to eliminate their hesitations. Steps like these make your kids always agreed with your opinion. Hence, you can easily guide your kids to avoid bad habits which are necessary for their health and growth.
Some kids are too consistent in their bad habits and really reluctant to avoid them. In such conditions, it is hard to control yourself. But instead of wasting your energy on such frustration, let your mind to take initiative to get a solution. You may suggest an alternative choice to kids which will work on both sides. It will let your kids avoid that bad habit and at the same time it will raise the passion about good habits which is good for their health and growth. For example your kid consistently spreads pencil colors on house walls and in spite of your efforts he is constant with spreading colors. Rather than frustrating, encourage him for drawing and painting and if he shows interests then also arrange an equipped space for drawing and painting.
Awards and Gifts
Never stop your efforts to make your kids healthier and educated. If they also follow your instructions then reward them with gifts and encourage them to be more educated. Remember, awards and gifts may lead your kids on both positive and negative tracks. So, awards and gifts which you decide to buy for your kids must be positive for their health and growth.
Kids lying problem is a bit tricky because it appears on different levels in children behavior. But there are different things you can do to help your child get rid of this behavior:
- Don’t give your child a chance to lie. In other words, don’t ask what you already know. If your child obviously took a cookie even though he wasn’t allowed to, don’t ask: “Did you take a cookie?”. You’ll push your kid to lie. Just say: “You have chocolate smears on your mouth. I told you not to take a cookie and you did it anyway without asking me!”
- When your child lies to you and you know he does, don’t get angry, you’ll make your child lie more. The fear of your angry reaction is exactly the reason why your child is lying to you. Listening and keeping your voice down is very important to understand the causes and be able to help your child stop lying. It’s also a better way to get the truth.
- Kids lying to draw attention by making up stories have to be handled differently. Indeed, very imaginative children shouldn’t be neglected. You need to make the difference between reality and fiction very clear. You can take TV and books as examples of what is real and what is pretended. Also, it’s a good idea to set aside times for imaginary play with dress-up costumes and accessories to differentiate fiction from reality without bridling his imagination.
- It’s important that you make truth and honesty a major principle in your family and education. Kids lying by habit often over-predict their parents’ reaction. That is why it’s very important that you provide clear boundaries but insist on the fact that they are negotiable and that it’s always better to tell the truth rather than a lie in the long run.
- Give your child the chance to reconsider his answer after saying an obvious lie and tell him there will be no consequences if he tells the truth right now. Reward honesty. Reverse the process: if you “catch” your child telling the truth, he’ll be rewarded with something he likes doing. He’ll soon see the good consequences of being honest.